Advice Overload

That is what I feel like I am on right now!  Every single time I put something on Facebook I feel like 100 people are just waiting to criticize the way I feel or what I am doing.  Every time I mention being tired or needing to do something someone makes me feel like the wicked witch of the west for not getting enough rest or trying to do too much (those closest to me know how absurd that one is) or for putting undue pressure on myself. 

"Woke up to this text this morning (from my What To Expect App) "Congratulations! You're at the midpoint of your pregnancy!" Now to decide if that is really exciting or really terrifying..." that is what I put on Facebook today.

Are you kidding me?  OF COURSE I am excited!  I'm also overwhelmed by all there is to do AND terrified out of my mind!  Know what else, ALL of these feelings are 100% normal.  If you are going to try to tell me you didn't have moments where you felt the exact same way I'm just going to politely say I don't believe you and then regard everything else you tell me as either a lie or know that you don't remember correctly or you weren't the kind of mother I want to be.

I don't want to be moving and getting a nursery ready after the baby is here.  I WILL but it's not what I WANT to do.  I feel like it is a literal breath of fresh air when I post something and someone agrees or encourages me instead of giving me advise.  I have had to say this exact sentence on more than one occasion, "I don't want to talk anymore today/tonight about what we SHOULD or SHOULD NOT name the baby."  And I mean it.  I am REALLY over that conversation.  Maybe that's why I never have the energy to really discuss it with M, I am already exhausted from discussing it with EVERYONE else.

I know I sound harsh and that everyone has the best of intentions but I don't know a polite way of saying "back off" besides saying it just like that.  All that being said, I'm THE WORST about giving advise that nobody asked for so I guess I deserve this.  Plus, I know that EVERY new mother since Eve's daughters  have had to put up with the advise overload from others.  (Totally off course, can you imagine your mother also being your mother in law AND the one responsible for the pain of childbirth??  Talk about awkward family get togethers during pregnancy!)

However, this is my blog and I am putting this in writing so maybe, just maybe, I can remember when dealing with other first time mothers to keep my mouth shut until someone asks for my advise!  Plus, just to let all of you concerned people out there know, I have PERFECT blood pressure and I feel like I couldn't be more relaxed!  I'm certainly not worrying myself to death or needing to spend more time in prayer, "giving it to God.", I just need to quit taking so many naps and being so lazy and get up and pack my house and make lists and start crossing things off.  I DON'T worry (apparent by my lack of DOING) and I am almost positive that I spend a majority of every 60 seconds IN prayer already so there's that.  :)

Last but not least, less I sound completely ungrateful and bratty, I am SO grateful I have so many friends and family members that are concerned and love me and Shamrock enough to think enough about us to always have an opinion about everything.  Besides feeling exhausted, excited, terrified, thrilled and nervous I also constantly feel completely loved and I wouldn't trade that for 20 more weeks of no unasked for advise!